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Ever cried after a breakup? You’re not alone. 失恋して泣いたことある？あなただけじゃないよ。
Breakups are painful, no doubt about it.
Sometimes we hold on too long, hoping things will work out, even when deep down, we know they won’t. That was me. I had a bad habit of jumping from one relationship to the next, afraid of being alone.
But then, I met someone I really thought I’d marry—a sweet, kind Japanese guy. I could picture our future together. But over time, our dreams and values started pulling us in opposite directions. I had just become a Christian, falling in love with Jesus, excited to take my kids to church one day. He, on the other hand, had no interest in that life. He tried to visit church, but he didn’t want to force our kids to go to church. And that’s when reality hit.
I’d seen my own parents argue about this exact thing. My mom wanted to bring us kids to church, my dad wanted nothing to do with it. It was hard. I knew I didn’t want my future kids to go through the same arguments. So I made one of the hardest decisions of my life, to break up.
He lived in Kushiro, I lived in Sapporo… so I took the train there, hoping for a way to make it work, have one last conversation, maybe we could work things out. We talked all night, trying to find a solution, but in the end, we knew it wouldn’t work. The next morning, he walked me to the JR Kushiro station ( 946 iykyk ). We hugged one last time at the train gates, neither of us wanted to let go. But I was the one who let go first, because I was about to miss my train. I turned away, and when I looked back once last time, he was already gone… then I cried all the way back to Sapporo.
It took months to recover. And that’s normal. It’s okay to cry about it. For months (that relationship lasted about 2 years)… I even prayed “why God??” But then I realized I had to move on… so one day I decided “this breakup is for the best, God must have someone better…” I wanted to believe in that. My heart felt so empty after that breakup, but I didn’t want to rush to fill it with another relationship.
Instead, I let Jesus’ love fill that space first. When I realized I was already fully loved by the God who created me, I didn’t need to chase after love—I started to believe that the right love will find me. And when it does, it’ll be with someone who values me for who I truly am.
11 years of marriage later, I have a husband who shares my faith, two beautiful daughters, and a family moving in the same direction. Hooray!!! 🎉
If you’re going through heartbreak right now, I hope this message reaches you:
Your story isn’t over. There’s someone out there who will love you for who you truly are.
This powerful song captures the emotional journey that follows the end of a relationship. It explores the difficulty of letting go when things just can’t work out anymore—but also reminds us that, eventually, we’ll be okay. With its bittersweet tone and healing message, it’s a beautiful reminder to give yourself time, grace, and hope.
Let’s pick up some lyrics:
But now we need to let our love go
Although it’s not what I want to do
but we both know that we need to grow…
I know that they say the pain’s gonna go away
and I know I’m gonna be okay
I know I can’t stay,
It hurts now, but one day I’m gonna be okay
でも、今は愛を手放さなきゃいけない
これがしたいことじゃないけど
お互いに成長しないといけないってわかってる…
痛みはいつかなくなるって言うけど
それでも大丈夫だってわかってる
今は辛いけど、きっといつか大丈夫になるって信じてる
Takeaway
Breakups can make us feel lost, like we need someone to complete us.
But the truth is—you are already complete.
Your value doesn’t depend on someone else’s love or approval.
Take this single time to rediscover yourself, do the things that make you happy, and surround yourself with people who lift you up.
The right relationship won’t require you to lose yourself—it will celebrate who you already are.
Love isn’t about finding someone to fill an empty space in your heart.
It’s about becoming whole, so when the right person comes along,
you’ll recognize them—not as someone to complete you,
but as someone to walk alongside you.
And lastly…
Are you heartbroken right now?
Remember—this isn’t the end of your story.
Your best days, your best love, and your best life are still ahead.
Take this season to heal, grow, and know that you are already deeply loved. ❤️
That’s all for this week!
With love from Sapporo…
I hope this could bless your mind 💫